Saturday, February 28, 2004
Oh, the Dr. on call was an idiot. He said I was probably dehydrated and shoud drink a lot.???? I said even though all the symptoms returned 36 hours after antibiotics? He said he can't do it over the phone, I might need a chest X-Ray. WTF? I never mentioned a cough to him. He treated me like an idiot. Doesn't he know I am a Dr. Mom? LOL Oh well. Medicine helps.
I went to the funeral of my neighbor on Thursday. I went with everyone to the cemetary afterwards. The ceremony was OK... nothing special except for the poor 5 year old grand daughter standing next to her crying mother watching her dear pop-pop being lowered in with these really obnoxious green straps connected to a machine. :-( They had the granddaughter put some dirt in the hole with the parents (Jewish tradition)... REALLY sad, really broke my heart.
But what I hated? After the burial, they had everyone besides the family line up in two lines and let the family leave between them. It was supposed to be a support thing, to be shown that they were surrounded by friends, family and support. But to me? UGH! I would have been horrified. First of all to be so upset and crying and emotional, then have all these people looking at you and staring at you watching you leave? I would have HATED it so much, I can't even explain. I would hate walking through such a thing on a good occation, but a horrible one like this? It would have made everything so much worse! It seems other people think it is nice and supportive. UGH.
I wonder if anyone else hates it but is scared to say anything. I don't think I remember this at other funerals. But I could have forgotten.
I just hope I don't have to go to another funeral for a long time.
We are going to go visit the shivah house (open house where people are mourning.. you go to show support and respect and stuff) tomorrow. I think I am going to make rice pudding to bring. I know the grandmother likes it, and it can always be used as a side dish to something... Rebekah wants to go. I think we will all go tomorrow and I might go alone on Monday and Tuesday. The wife is staying at her daughter's house. When the wife comes home (next door), she wont have the support of shivah so I think I will try to help her then. It is all so sad. I know she will find it hard to believe or feel that he isn't just upstairs or something. July would have been their 40th anniversary. He seemed to be one of the healthiest people I knew...
But what I hated? After the burial, they had everyone besides the family line up in two lines and let the family leave between them. It was supposed to be a support thing, to be shown that they were surrounded by friends, family and support. But to me? UGH! I would have been horrified. First of all to be so upset and crying and emotional, then have all these people looking at you and staring at you watching you leave? I would have HATED it so much, I can't even explain. I would hate walking through such a thing on a good occation, but a horrible one like this? It would have made everything so much worse! It seems other people think it is nice and supportive. UGH.
I wonder if anyone else hates it but is scared to say anything. I don't think I remember this at other funerals. But I could have forgotten.
I just hope I don't have to go to another funeral for a long time.
We are going to go visit the shivah house (open house where people are mourning.. you go to show support and respect and stuff) tomorrow. I think I am going to make rice pudding to bring. I know the grandmother likes it, and it can always be used as a side dish to something... Rebekah wants to go. I think we will all go tomorrow and I might go alone on Monday and Tuesday. The wife is staying at her daughter's house. When the wife comes home (next door), she wont have the support of shivah so I think I will try to help her then. It is all so sad. I know she will find it hard to believe or feel that he isn't just upstairs or something. July would have been their 40th anniversary. He seemed to be one of the healthiest people I knew...
Friday, February 27, 2004
I finished my antibiotics the day before yesterday. I swear, I am sicker than I was when I started them. :-( The Dr. gave me such a low dose of amox, it didn't do anything. I didn't get through to the Dr. today... UGH, I will make it till Monday, I will make it. Sudefed is my friend, sudefed is my friend...
I pick Rebekah and the carpool boy up at school everyday, about 20+ minutes from here. I usually go down this nice winding countryish road which is real close to the city, just the way things work around here. Three days ago, 5 deer cross the road in front of me. When I turned the corner, I saw two of them bounding over to the right, then 3 more came from the left over the road to follow them. I didn't come close to hitting them, and they were pretty... but having hit a deer in the past, I find myself taking the more boring, out of the way, but the same time, high way route since then. I mean if there are so many deer around that I see 5 in one day, I think I should avoid the area! :-)
I pick Rebekah and the carpool boy up at school everyday, about 20+ minutes from here. I usually go down this nice winding countryish road which is real close to the city, just the way things work around here. Three days ago, 5 deer cross the road in front of me. When I turned the corner, I saw two of them bounding over to the right, then 3 more came from the left over the road to follow them. I didn't come close to hitting them, and they were pretty... but having hit a deer in the past, I find myself taking the more boring, out of the way, but the same time, high way route since then. I mean if there are so many deer around that I see 5 in one day, I think I should avoid the area! :-)
Thursday, February 26, 2004
My neighbor has passed away. My kids all knew him as his granddaughter lived there for a while (with her parents too when they built their new house) and the parents watch the children 3 days/week as babysitters.
Anyway, I had to tell the kids, couldn't just ignore it like I would have loved to.
So, how do you answer a 6 year old who wants to know where heaven is? My 8 year old thinks it would be great if you could visit heaven and then come back to earth... I guess it would be cool, huh?
I have to go to some web site where they list the worst things you could tell a kid when someone dies. Have to make sure I didn't say any of them!
Anyway, I had to tell the kids, couldn't just ignore it like I would have loved to.
So, how do you answer a 6 year old who wants to know where heaven is? My 8 year old thinks it would be great if you could visit heaven and then come back to earth... I guess it would be cool, huh?
I have to go to some web site where they list the worst things you could tell a kid when someone dies. Have to make sure I didn't say any of them!
Tuesday, February 24, 2004
Not that I am sensitive or anything. But if I don't stop getting mail messages about my 'love muscle' I might start to get a complex.
Alyssa did end up being sick today. A VERY high fevor, but no other symptoms... well, being lathargic and grumpy, yes, but no cold symptoms. I was nervous at dinner time as when she woke up she wave VERY hot. I gave her a big dose of motrin and decided to check her with a real thermometer (what a concept :-) ) 45 minutes later. If she was still hot, I was going to bring her in... somewhere.
Anyway, I went to check and felt her head. She was still hot, but not as hot. I went to get the thermometer and when I came down she was up (was laying down before) and was asking for push up pops. :-) I decided not to take her temp. :-) I think she was in shock when I gave her 5 push up pops in a row. :-) I was a little concerned that she wasn't drinking enough. So... I guess each push up pops has about 2 oz of koolaid look alike. Five push up pops is 10 oz of colored, sweetened liquid. Sounds good to me!
Alyssa just walked down the basement stairs to tell me that she has a fevor and her Daddy is "being mean to me". I think she is probably OK now, till the motrin wears off.
Anyway, I went to check and felt her head. She was still hot, but not as hot. I went to get the thermometer and when I came down she was up (was laying down before) and was asking for push up pops. :-) I decided not to take her temp. :-) I think she was in shock when I gave her 5 push up pops in a row. :-) I was a little concerned that she wasn't drinking enough. So... I guess each push up pops has about 2 oz of koolaid look alike. Five push up pops is 10 oz of colored, sweetened liquid. Sounds good to me!
Alyssa just walked down the basement stairs to tell me that she has a fevor and her Daddy is "being mean to me". I think she is probably OK now, till the motrin wears off.
I wish I was a more adventurous eater. I go to this produce market owned by a Turkish family. THey have wonderful produce and prices. They also have a lot of Turkish and generally new to me international food. I wouldn't know what to do with it and don't know what half of it is cause it isn't labled in english. :-) I was looking at the pictures today and they have three different brands of concentrated pamagranit (sp?) juice. What the heck would I do with it? I don't know, but it has to be good, huh? They had some sort of plastic containers with appricot, cherries oh and some other fruit on them... probably interesting and good, but I am too wimpy to buy it. Some of the stuff I sort of recognize, like some of the other then peanut nut spreads. I think one of them was almond? And one was a swirl in the jar - almond (I think) and some sort of cream. I am sure it is great... I guess. I have seen that one at Trader Joes type stores, but much of the other stuff is brand new to me.
Remember the sugar wafers that Nana used to buy me as a kid? OK, that was just me. But you guys know sugar wafers, right? They had different flavors of them. One was coconut filling, one lemon, one strawberry, and one other. Sounds good, doesn't it. But we certainly don't need to get hooked on a different type of cookie here, so I let it go.
Fun.
I had to get fruit today as we don't have any and Alyssa seems to be getting sick - again, so I won't be able to go out shopping later in the week.
Remember the sugar wafers that Nana used to buy me as a kid? OK, that was just me. But you guys know sugar wafers, right? They had different flavors of them. One was coconut filling, one lemon, one strawberry, and one other. Sounds good, doesn't it. But we certainly don't need to get hooked on a different type of cookie here, so I let it go.
Fun.
I had to get fruit today as we don't have any and Alyssa seems to be getting sick - again, so I won't be able to go out shopping later in the week.
Sunday, February 22, 2004
We had a nice day today and then Rebekah had her worse migraine EVER. UGH. I so hate when my baby is in such huge pain. :-( I know that it got so bad because we had finished the advil a month ago and I never put any back in my bag so I didn't have any to give her right away. :-( That makes such a difference... so I feel guilty too. BLECH
We were coming back from BK and Rebekah said she was going to throw up from the way back of the van. :-( I looked around.... took Bill's full 32 oz cup of soda, opened my window, dumped it out and got the cup back to Rebekah in time... while driving on a big crowded road. What a Mom, huh?
We were coming back from BK and Rebekah said she was going to throw up from the way back of the van. :-( I looked around.... took Bill's full 32 oz cup of soda, opened my window, dumped it out and got the cup back to Rebekah in time... while driving on a big crowded road. What a Mom, huh?
I forget how much the kids need exercise and fresh air. I got back from shopping today and the kids were all grumpy with Daddy. Rebekah was getting sneakers on to go outside, the other two didn't want to go and then Rebekah was sort of changing her mind too. I gave everyone a quick snack (Daddy doesn't need snacks and tends to forget that kids do!) and told them all we were going outside. Rebekah rode her bike, Alyssa and Matthew ran... We all got sun, fresh air, wind and 'good color in our cheeks'. And........ everyone was in a much better state of mind.
We NEED SUN AND EXERCISE!!!!!
We NEED SUN AND EXERCISE!!!!!
